The new meme wave as of late has been about being his/her “peace”. The people I tend to see posting these memes are also people that haven’t had peace in their life in a long time judging by the amount of bitter quotes posted to their profiles.
How can you ask someone to be your peace when you aren’t even at peace with yourself? Why do people expect someone to come in and fix their life for them? At what point should a person start to hold themselves accountable for their own happiness? No one else can be your peace. Someone can add to your peace but they cannot be responsible for your peace. Other people cannot be responsible for your happiness. He/she cannot fix you. As rude as this may sound, it is not their job to fix you. It is not their job to fix you…
I think that is probably the hardest thing for people to understand. You cannot rely on others to make you happy. The happiness will never last. Lasting happiness comes from within. It’s cliche, it’s corny, but it’s true. If you are unhappy before someone comes into your life, just know that the unhappiness will continue. You are going to begin to find fault with everything they do. You will latch on to every mistake they make. You do this because in your mind they are failing at the one thing you need them to do: make you happy. They aren’t failing. The fact is they can’t make you happy because your unhappiness is coming from something much deeper inside of you. You are unhappy with yourself and NO ONE can fix that. So, of course, you blame them. You constantly argue. You constantly keep a wall around yourself. You push them, and push them, and push them. They leave and of course, because you have no accountability, it’s all their fault. You refuse to look at what part you played in the situation. Instead, you label them a “fuckboy” or a “bitch” and join the “Bitter Bitch Brigade”. No matter how many failed relationships you go through, you never try to do any self-evaluation. It’s always everyone else’s fault. Everyone else is a problem. Never you… No, not you. You are the victim in all of this.
And that is why you are never at peace. That is why you will never know peace. That is why no one will ever be your peace. You push peace away from you. Be your own damn peace. Get yourself together first. Get your mind, your soul, your heart in a better place. Do that on your own and THEN bring someone into the picture. It will be far more peaceful.